There are many facets to life that many of us don't know about. On my column I give my personal views from real life experiences, sound advice on daily obstacles, and I write out lessons I've learned on my personal journey.
As of recently, society has seen a drastic increase of people beginning to base or model their relationships off of secular celebrities and their relatively short lived relationships/marriages instead of the biblical principles that God originally intended for all humanity. When God is not included as the foundation for a relationship/marriage it will almost always be headed for destruction or divorce. On the flip side, there are many couples that eventually develop the foundation of Christ further down the line in their relationship/marriage. To be honest marriages that don't have a foundation on the principles of Jesus Christ are only considered marriage to humanity and aren't really considered marriage or honored in God's eyes because it's done contrary to what he created it to be. But ultimately it's between God and that couple.
Luke 6: 47-49 says, "I will show you what it’s like when someone comes to me, listens to my teaching, and then follows it. It is like a person building a house who digs deep and lays the foundation on solid rock. When the floodwaters rise and break against that house, it stands firm because it is well built. But anyone who hears and doesn’t obey is like a person who builds a house right on the ground, without a foundation. When the floods sweep down against that house, it will collapse into a heap of ruins.”
Your unconscious mind controls your behavior so it can lead you to compromising and also alters your judgment and feelings. So in relationships/marriages things like adultery, infidelity, cheating, lying, constant arguing, and constant lack of communication will be inevitable unless there is a foundation there that can eliminate these things from even happening in the first place. Evaluate the reasons for you even wanting to get into a relationship in the first place. Lack of attention? Tired of being alone? Is it only about you and your needs? Seeking to simply have someone entertain you? These are all the wrong reasons for wanting a relationship. You should always be content while single first.
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Everybody nowadays says they want wholesome friendships or at least they just like to ponder on the thought of it. We compromise many of the morals we initially had to fit into these societal boxes that produce a lot of the deceptive friendships we see today. With deception going around now at a rapid pace it is very important to simply evaluate yourself everyday and think are you being an asset or a liability to the friendships you're in and also evaluate who you're around on a consistent basis. Are they an asset or a liability to you? 1 Corinthians 15:33 says, "Do not be deceived: “Bad company corrupts good morals.”" Most people usually can tell what type of person you are just by the people they may see you hang around. In due time you become whatever you hang around so keep this in mind.
The relationship perception that society has out today is very misleading and can deceive you if you don't already know what a healthy and godly relationship is suppose to look like. 2 Corinthians 6:14 says,"Don’t team up with those who are unbelievers. How can righteousness be a partner with wickedness? How can light live with darkness?" Social media has manipulated the minds of people into wanting these celebrity type relationships which in actuality aren't really built on the right foundations in the first place which is why a lot of divorces happen to what we thought were good couples. Most of it is all influenced by money and what type of status you have in the world. Your unconscious mind controls your behavior and also has the power to compromise and influence your judgments and feelings. Don't let emotions which are physical and feelings which are mental get in the way of you choosing the right spouse. God put man on this earth first and the woman(Eve) was brought along out of the rib of the man (Adam) to compliment him. Genesis 2:18 says, "Then the Lord God said, “It is not good for the man to be alone. I will make a helper who is just right for him.” The man is suppose to lead and cultivate whomever he chooses as a spouse.
Your actions have to prove that you have been grasping what you've been taught in life and by God's word. Anything less is a sign of regression!
- Nicholas Halmon
I am originally from Bamberg, SC but I currently live in Charlotte, NC. I have had some of the greatest ups and some of the lowest of setbacks. I will write about daily obstacles you will encounter and many helpful thoughts on certain aspects of life and other informative ideas.
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Your worth shouldn't be based off of another persons perception of you! God's love establishes true worth because he is our basis for all things!