There are many facets to life that many of us don't know about. On my column I give my personal views from real life experiences, sound advice on daily obstacles, and I write out lessons I've learned on my personal journey.
Everybody nowadays says they want wholesome friendships or at least they just like to ponder on the thought of it. We compromise many of the morals we initially had to fit into these societal boxes that produce a lot of the deceptive friendships we see today. With deception going around now at a rapid pace it is very important to simply evaluate yourself everyday and think are you being an asset or a liability to the friendships you're in and also evaluate who you're around on a consistent basis. Are they an asset or a liability to you? 1 Corinthians 15:33 says, "Do not be deceived: “Bad company corrupts good morals.”" Most people usually can tell what type of person you are just by the people they may see you hang around. In due time you become whatever you hang around so keep this in mind.
The relationship perception that society has out today is very misleading and can deceive you if you don't already know what a healthy and godly relationship is suppose to look like. 2 Corinthians 6:14 says,"Don’t team up with those who are unbelievers. How can righteousness be a partner with wickedness? How can light live with darkness?" Social media has manipulated the minds of people into wanting these celebrity type relationships which in actuality aren't really built on the right foundations in the first place which is why a lot of divorces happen to what we thought were good couples. Most of it is all influenced by money and what type of status you have in the world. Your unconscious mind controls your behavior and also has the power to compromise and influence your judgments and feelings. Don't let emotions which are physical and feelings which are mental get in the way of you choosing the right spouse. God put man on this earth first and the woman(Eve) was brought along out of the rib of the man (Adam) to compliment him. Genesis 2:18 says, "Then the Lord God said, “It is not good for the man to be alone. I will make a helper who is just right for him.” The man is suppose to lead and cultivate whomever he chooses as a spouse.
There are many that complain everyday over things of no substance or value and more times than none the problem may have been self inflicted.
1. Habits: Gradually push aside habits that are pulling you back and leading you nowhere. Some habits you won't realize are hindering you until it's literally forced upon you to eliminate it which at that time may be too late to turnaround. Habits that make you step outside your comfort zone in a negative and degrading way should be dropped. Your friends will know if you are acting out of character.
2. Friends: They can be some of your best motivators. Friends have the power and potential to guide/help you beyond what's visible. Stick with the friends you find that help push you even when you think you're good. Stick with the friends who criticize you at times on your daily life whether a good or bad situation. On the flip side of it avoid the toxic friends of whom you can never see eye to eye with on anything!
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Some habits you won't realize are hindering you until it's literally forced upon you to eliminate them. Being consistently around only a select few people (your squad) has to become amusing to you in order to limit conflict and distractions. This is part 3 and the last of this little series of thoughts which are below.
Just some more questions...
How do you start your day?
What are the positives?
Do you think there are negatives?
Are you driven?
Are you focused?
How are you feeling about life?
Is it balancing out?
Are you taking YOUR own steps?
Are you making your ends meet?
Are they working for you?
What can you do different?
What are you thinking now?
These are just simple questions!
- Nicholas Halmon
I have been getting more positive feedback than I expected from my posts and I thank everyone for that. Sooo previously I gave the first bit of collective thoughts to help you keep the positivity going and ways to stay within positive vibes. This will be the 2nd collective part to that series...
Some days it may be just a little harder to stay motivated in what you are doing. This is a common attribute among most people i'm pretty sure. I will blog a short 3 part series to give you some thoughts and to help you keep positive vibes...
Just a series of questions......
What does your journey look like?
Are you trying to separate yourself?
What do you want to be in life?
Are your friends motivating you?
Do you communicate well?
Are you really grateful for everything?
What is your motivation?
Who are your role models?
Do you want what you know you can't have?
Do you have a relationship with your parents?
Do you complain too much?
What does your journey look like?
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Your actions have to prove that you have been grasping what you've been taught in life and by God's word. Anything less is a sign of regression!
- Nicholas Halmon
I am originally from Bamberg, SC but I currently live in Charlotte, NC. I have had some of the greatest ups and some of the lowest of setbacks. I will write about daily obstacles you will encounter and many helpful thoughts on certain aspects of life and other informative ideas.
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Your worth shouldn't be based off of another persons perception of you! God's love establishes true worth because he is our basis for all things!